tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415968288397893289.post5659484604229776436..comments2024-02-17T08:29:14.346+00:00Comments on tommyontour: No one ever asked ,Joan Whitelaw , My magnificent mumTommy Whitelawhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02843988821423235605noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415968288397893289.post-33726404980695320992014-04-04T16:11:01.004+01:002014-04-04T16:11:01.004+01:00I agree with what you say. My dad lived with me fo...I agree with what you say. My dad lived with me for the last year of his life until then my mum had been coping on her own. In the months before he passed away aged 97 he had begun to have emotional outbursts and on occassion he could be aggressive. Because of this we were advised that they would be withdrawing our homecare package as a couple of staff hed reported that he had grabbed their wrist during personal care tasks and therefore my father had broken his homecare agreement. However, I do question how they could assess that he had made that agreement in the first place. In the end my dad was taken into hospital for short term assessment. Unfortunately he deteriorated rapidly as he was no longer mobilising and his interactions seemed to be restricted to our visits as he could be disruptive and was soon moved into a side room on his own. People no longer saw the funny, polite , caring man that he had always been who right up until a few years before he passed away would still stand up on the bus should a lady need a seat. <br />My dad was in hospital for seven weeks and unfortunately we were not allowed to have him return home to receive end of life care which had been all of our wish. I cannot fault the staff in the hospital who provided my dad and my family with fantastic care in his final days but this will always be a regret of mine.<br />Unfortunately my mum who still lives with us has also been diagnosed with dementia and we are receiving fantastic support from the Dementia Link Nurse but she worries that she will have the same journey as my dad. I try to explain that everyones dementia journey is different and we can only prepare for the future and deal with today in the best way that we can.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415968288397893289.post-31589996201808374092013-12-30T00:39:57.254+00:002013-12-30T00:39:57.254+00:00Seeing her wedding photo, she was also stunningly ...Seeing her wedding photo, she was also stunningly beautiful, just like the way you write to bring her alive on the page. Thank you for sharing her story with us xYvonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15846161876247142748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415968288397893289.post-43146202509260386672013-05-29T07:39:58.111+01:002013-05-29T07:39:58.111+01:00Very important message Tommy. Your blog touches so...Very important message Tommy. Your blog touches so many. Audrey xAudrey Birthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12724783724560921741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415968288397893289.post-49665588939259832712013-04-14T01:24:10.989+01:002013-04-14T01:24:10.989+01:00It may help to know that we try to learn lots abo...It may help to know that we try to learn lots about the persons values & achievements & about their life history now I'm so sorry you were let down, your mum was lucky to have you & to know she was loved & a very special lady x Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415968288397893289.post-19085321468249907632013-03-23T16:15:46.509+00:002013-03-23T16:15:46.509+00:00that is so sweet. i love it. :)that is so sweet. i love it. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com