Hi again,
I had a great talk last week with carers at Baillieston Community Care. They're a charity that's been providing services for people with dementia in the east end of Glasgow since 1992 - a cause close to my heart. They want to make sure that people with dementia can stay independent and in their own homes for as long as they can, as well as supporting carers and offering respite.
Something I really like about doing these talks is the way that, by getting carers to talk about what matters to them, you can start to see the tension in the room ease off. It's always high to start with, plus people get emotional when they talk about the difficult stuff (and sometimes the good stuff too). But because they've been able to chat about things and share what they think, it can really help them feel better. You just need a few chairs, perhaps a cuppa, and a group of people who want to talk.
The talking's important, but the letters are important too. I know how hard it is to sit down on your own (especially as a carer - time on your own is a rare thing!) and put things down in black and white. It's a big step, sharing that sort of information about yourself and the people you love. And I know a lot of people have wanted to write letters, but not got round to it yet. Thing is, I believe the letters will be what makes the difference. It's hard to share a story that's just been yours, or your family's, or your friends'. But if we share our stories, our experiences of what's good and what's not so good, then the people who make the big decisions about care and health and social work can read them. And if they read our stories, all our stories, then things can start to change - for the better.
If you send me a letter or an email, I will take it to the Parliament and it will be read. That's my promise. But I need the letters first.
Cheers,
Tommy
Tuesday, 30 August 2011
Monday, 15 August 2011
The glorious 12th!
Hiya,
If you're a regular reader of my wee blog, you'd be forgiven for thinking that I've been on my holidays this past fortnight - all this time and no updates! Truth is, I've been all over Glasgow (and beyond!) speaking to carers' groups about 'Tommy on Tour' and asking more people to write letters. I might not be on the TV right now, but you can be sure that I'm keeping busy.
Lots of people have been asking me when these letters will be handed in. Well, emails are going back and forth to the Scottish Parliament and I'm hoping it'll be in the autumn. I'm also hoping that it'll be more than just handing over letters - but more about that nearer the time.
One of the best things about doing 'Tommy on Tour' is getting the chance to speak to loads of other carers. It makes me feel really humble when so many people share their personal thoughts and experiences of dementia with me - either in the letters or when we chat. I spent a long time feeling alone as a carer. Isolated. Cut off from all the people I used to know and the things I used to do. Now I know that lots of carers feel like that - and it's not right. Carers shouldn't have to feel that they're on their own. I hope the people who finally read all these letters will see how important it is to make carers' lives easier.
Last Friday I was at a Carers' Link meeting in East Dunbartonshire. I don't know how they found out, but a wee birdy must have told them it was my birthday. They even had a cake for me! I couldn't believe it - it brought a tear to my eye.
Thanks again, everyone and keep writing!
Tommy
PS I'd like to say a quick thank you to Lynn Williams at the Princess Royal Trust for Carers. Have a look at their campaign for the 2012 Scottish local elections - Carers Votes Count (Facebook page - require login).
If you're a regular reader of my wee blog, you'd be forgiven for thinking that I've been on my holidays this past fortnight - all this time and no updates! Truth is, I've been all over Glasgow (and beyond!) speaking to carers' groups about 'Tommy on Tour' and asking more people to write letters. I might not be on the TV right now, but you can be sure that I'm keeping busy.
Lots of people have been asking me when these letters will be handed in. Well, emails are going back and forth to the Scottish Parliament and I'm hoping it'll be in the autumn. I'm also hoping that it'll be more than just handing over letters - but more about that nearer the time.
One of the best things about doing 'Tommy on Tour' is getting the chance to speak to loads of other carers. It makes me feel really humble when so many people share their personal thoughts and experiences of dementia with me - either in the letters or when we chat. I spent a long time feeling alone as a carer. Isolated. Cut off from all the people I used to know and the things I used to do. Now I know that lots of carers feel like that - and it's not right. Carers shouldn't have to feel that they're on their own. I hope the people who finally read all these letters will see how important it is to make carers' lives easier.
Last Friday I was at a Carers' Link meeting in East Dunbartonshire. I don't know how they found out, but a wee birdy must have told them it was my birthday. They even had a cake for me! I couldn't believe it - it brought a tear to my eye.
Thanks again, everyone and keep writing!
Tommy
PS I'd like to say a quick thank you to Lynn Williams at the Princess Royal Trust for Carers. Have a look at their campaign for the 2012 Scottish local elections - Carers Votes Count (Facebook page - require login).
Wednesday, 27 July 2011
A wee round-up of what I've been up to
Hiya,
Busy times! I've been here, there and everywhere over the past couple of weeks. I've been chatting to loads of other carers, which is always a real privilege. I'm even getting used to speaking in public - never thought that would happen!
Since I last updated my wee blog, I've been to:
North Dementia Forum (Bearsden)
North East Carers (Easterhouse)
South West Carers Centre (Govan - with thanks to Quarriers)
Oxford Street Carers (city centre)
South East Carers (Cathcart)
The more talks I do and the more people I get the chance to meet, the more I realise that it's all about making a difference at local level. It's the help and care and support that you get in your own town that's key to it all. Getting your local social work dept, or your local council, or your health board to listen to you - that's what most carers seem to be really interested in. At least, that's what I'm hearing again and again from the carers that I meet.
This week and next week I'm doing my talk to Alzheimer Scotland's Dementia Cafe's in Glasgow. Next week I've got a talk in Springburn too. Tommy's still touring!
Cheers,
Tommy
PS my cousin took a lovely photo of my wee mum and her sister, Margaret, in Largs last week. Thought it'd be nice to share it.
Busy times! I've been here, there and everywhere over the past couple of weeks. I've been chatting to loads of other carers, which is always a real privilege. I'm even getting used to speaking in public - never thought that would happen!
Since I last updated my wee blog, I've been to:
North Dementia Forum (Bearsden)
North East Carers (Easterhouse)
South West Carers Centre (Govan - with thanks to Quarriers)
Oxford Street Carers (city centre)
South East Carers (Cathcart)
The more talks I do and the more people I get the chance to meet, the more I realise that it's all about making a difference at local level. It's the help and care and support that you get in your own town that's key to it all. Getting your local social work dept, or your local council, or your health board to listen to you - that's what most carers seem to be really interested in. At least, that's what I'm hearing again and again from the carers that I meet.
This week and next week I'm doing my talk to Alzheimer Scotland's Dementia Cafe's in Glasgow. Next week I've got a talk in Springburn too. Tommy's still touring!
Cheers,
Tommy
PS my cousin took a lovely photo of my wee mum and her sister, Margaret, in Largs last week. Thought it'd be nice to share it.
Thursday, 7 July 2011
Still touring!
Hiya!
I had a lovely day in Prestwick yesterday and met some wonderful people. Jenni, the local Link Worker who organized the day, was fantastic. I showed the wee film about my walk then spoke about my tour. Then the best bit - a good hour of sitting and chatting as a group, talking about all aspects of dementia and being a carer.
There are so many carers and, while we all have a different story to tell, there's a lot we all have in common too. One of the best bits about doing this tours is having the chance to meet so many of them.
Tommy
Thursday, 30 June 2011
Hi again!
Hiya folks,
Sorry it's been a bit quiet on my blog over the past few days. It's not been as quiet as that for 'Tommy on Tour'!
Got a few more visits coming up over the next couple of weeks. Going to a Princess Royal Trust for Carers group tomorrow in Glasgow, an Alzheimer Scotland carers' group in Prestwick on 6th July and the North Dementia Forum in Glasgow on 13th July. Busy times!
All the best,
Tommy
Sorry it's been a bit quiet on my blog over the past few days. It's not been as quiet as that for 'Tommy on Tour'!
Got a few more visits coming up over the next couple of weeks. Going to a Princess Royal Trust for Carers group tomorrow in Glasgow, an Alzheimer Scotland carers' group in Prestwick on 6th July and the North Dementia Forum in Glasgow on 13th July. Busy times!
All the best,
Tommy
Wednesday, 22 June 2011
Even more thank yous! Brilliant support for Tommy on Tour :-)
Hiya,
Had a fantastic day in Kilmarnock. Just want to thank Yvonne Stewart and Katy Hawker from Alzheimer Scotland for getting me involved in today's event and letting me meet the Musical Minds group.
Big thanks also to David and Perry (for arranging Take That tickets) and Keith and Benny (for Bon Jovi tickets) - absolutely fantastic!
Cheers,
Tommy
Had a fantastic day in Kilmarnock. Just want to thank Yvonne Stewart and Katy Hawker from Alzheimer Scotland for getting me involved in today's event and letting me meet the Musical Minds group.
Big thanks also to David and Perry (for arranging Take That tickets) and Keith and Benny (for Bon Jovi tickets) - absolutely fantastic!
Cheers,
Tommy
Tuesday, 21 June 2011
More tour dates and a very big thank you
Hiya,
Sorry for being a bit quiet over the past couple of days - trying to get back into a routine after my big walk. Letters and emails are still coming in, which is fantastic. If you haven't written a letter yet, you've still got time. All the contact details are at the top of the blog. I'll be at a post-diagnostic support event in Kilmarnock tomorrow and a carers' event at the Thistle Hotel in Glasgow on Thursday - the tour's not over yet!
I want to say a huge thank you to Ivan Kushlick and Stacey Maranz for arranging for two Kings of Leon tickets at very short notice for a raffle prize. They've been fantastic - helpful above and beyond the call of duty.
Cheers,
Tommy
Sorry for being a bit quiet over the past couple of days - trying to get back into a routine after my big walk. Letters and emails are still coming in, which is fantastic. If you haven't written a letter yet, you've still got time. All the contact details are at the top of the blog. I'll be at a post-diagnostic support event in Kilmarnock tomorrow and a carers' event at the Thistle Hotel in Glasgow on Thursday - the tour's not over yet!
I want to say a huge thank you to Ivan Kushlick and Stacey Maranz for arranging for two Kings of Leon tickets at very short notice for a raffle prize. They've been fantastic - helpful above and beyond the call of duty.
Cheers,
Tommy
Wednesday, 15 June 2011
Gold stars all round!
Hiya,
If you've seen my wee film, you'll have seen me chatting away to some pupils from Lourdes Secondary School. They've been doing a project on caring and it was great getting the chance to speak to them about what it's like to be a carer.
| Me with some of the pupils from Lourdes Secondary School |
Well, today I was given over 100 letters from pupils in s1 at the school. All about caring: young carers, kids looking after their parents and other relatives, how their families are coping with grandparents who have dementia. It's amazing - so much thought and effort has gone into them. I've even been invited back next term to talk about reading the letters. I'm overwhelmed, I really am.
I'm so chuffed that young people are thinking about stuff like this. They're the ones who'll be making a difference a few years down the line.A big thanks to Mrs Lennon, Mrs McGettrick and all the staff and pupils for embracing my campaign to collect letters and raise awareness.
All the best,
Tommy
Tuesday, 14 June 2011
Carers Week and photos from Glasgow Green Family Funday
Hiya,
This week is Carers' Week. Sometimes being a carer can make you feel like your all on your own. But you're not. There's an army of us across Scotland, hundreds of thousands of us, caring for people at home. Don't try to cope with caring on your own. There's no shame in getting in touch with other people - charities, social work, your GP, your local church - to get information and help.
Carers Scotland have put up a page on their website, letting people know that my tour is still going, as have the Dementia Services Development Centre. Alzheimer Scotland have also put the story as top news item on their site today.
I had a great time at the Family Funday in Glasgow Green on Saturday. Alzheimer Scotland's had support services in Glasgow for 21 years and they wanted to celebrate it with a great day out in the city. We even had some sunshine - well, in the the morning anyway! I met some more people and I was asked to draw the raffle.
I'm going to the dementia cafe at the Helensburgh Dementia Resource Centre (16 East Clyde Street) this Saturday, then I'm off to Kilmarnock on Wednesday 22nd. Don't want to let the grass grow under my feet!
Cheers,
Tommy
This week is Carers' Week. Sometimes being a carer can make you feel like your all on your own. But you're not. There's an army of us across Scotland, hundreds of thousands of us, caring for people at home. Don't try to cope with caring on your own. There's no shame in getting in touch with other people - charities, social work, your GP, your local church - to get information and help.
Carers Scotland have put up a page on their website, letting people know that my tour is still going, as have the Dementia Services Development Centre. Alzheimer Scotland have also put the story as top news item on their site today.
I had a great time at the Family Funday in Glasgow Green on Saturday. Alzheimer Scotland's had support services in Glasgow for 21 years and they wanted to celebrate it with a great day out in the city. We even had some sunshine - well, in the the morning anyway! I met some more people and I was asked to draw the raffle.
| Me drawing the raffle, with help from Angi (Dementia Advisor) |
I'm going to the dementia cafe at the Helensburgh Dementia Resource Centre (16 East Clyde Street) this Saturday, then I'm off to Kilmarnock on Wednesday 22nd. Don't want to let the grass grow under my feet!
Cheers,
Tommy
Monday, 13 June 2011
A week's a long time in awareness raising, but it's not long enough...
Hiya,
I'm back home, back in Glasgow. My mum came back from respite yesterday and I'm so glad to have her with me again. I've missed my wee mum.
It's hard to believe that this time last week I was meeting Nicola Sturgeon, Stewart Regan and being filmed in football stadiums. This time last week I was headline news. Well, I might not be on your telly tonight, but 'Tommy on Tour' marches on! Over the next few weeks I want to collect more letters and keep raising awareness. As soon as I know where I'll be, it'll be on the blog. Looks like I'll be in Ayrshire around the 22nd, hopefully in Helensburgh at some point too. Can't stop the tour now, not when it's doing so well!
I'll have some photos from the funday at Glasgow Green up soon. In the meantime, I want to share a few more pics for last Monday - a truly amazing day!
Don't forget - you can still send your emails and letters. All the details are at the top of the blog page.
Cheers,
Tommy
I'm back home, back in Glasgow. My mum came back from respite yesterday and I'm so glad to have her with me again. I've missed my wee mum.
It's hard to believe that this time last week I was meeting Nicola Sturgeon, Stewart Regan and being filmed in football stadiums. This time last week I was headline news. Well, I might not be on your telly tonight, but 'Tommy on Tour' marches on! Over the next few weeks I want to collect more letters and keep raising awareness. As soon as I know where I'll be, it'll be on the blog. Looks like I'll be in Ayrshire around the 22nd, hopefully in Helensburgh at some point too. Can't stop the tour now, not when it's doing so well!
I'll have some photos from the funday at Glasgow Green up soon. In the meantime, I want to share a few more pics for last Monday - a truly amazing day!
Don't forget - you can still send your emails and letters. All the details are at the top of the blog page.
Cheers,
Tommy
Friday, 10 June 2011
Home baking in Edinburgh
Hiya,
Today I was at the head office of Alzheimer Scotland in the west end of Edinburgh. I got a tour through the building - from finance to fundraising - and got to meet loads of staff. Even had a wee photo with them, as you can see below!
They laid on a sandwich lunch for me, with some lovely homebaking from Maureen (who's been following me in the Memory Bus for most of the week) and Tricia. Some really nice words were said and I got a wee bit choked up. That's happened to me a few times this week. It's never got any easier, speaking in public. Still do it though. For my wee mum.
Like I said yesterday, this isn't the end of the tour. Not yet. I want to give carers enough time to get their letters and emails in, so the tour will be rolling on (just not quite so busy!) until at least the end of June. I'd really like to get to some more carers' centres, to more places on the west coast, and to talk to more people. It's been a real privilage to meet so many wonderful people this past week. I'll never forget the man I met in Aberdeen. He was in his mid-80s and he was looking after his wife, who was about 82. He'd been caring for her for 10 years and she's much further on than my mum. But he coped so well and he was so patient. I take my hat off to that man - he's an inspiration, as are so many like him.
Tomorrow I'm back in the dear green place. It's the 21st birthday of Alzheimer Scotland's Glasgow services and I'm going along to their family fun day at Glasgow Green. Hope the weather stays nice and I hope lots of people come along.
All the best,
Tommy
Today I was at the head office of Alzheimer Scotland in the west end of Edinburgh. I got a tour through the building - from finance to fundraising - and got to meet loads of staff. Even had a wee photo with them, as you can see below!
| Me and the Alzheimer Scotland team in Edinburgh |
They laid on a sandwich lunch for me, with some lovely homebaking from Maureen (who's been following me in the Memory Bus for most of the week) and Tricia. Some really nice words were said and I got a wee bit choked up. That's happened to me a few times this week. It's never got any easier, speaking in public. Still do it though. For my wee mum.
Like I said yesterday, this isn't the end of the tour. Not yet. I want to give carers enough time to get their letters and emails in, so the tour will be rolling on (just not quite so busy!) until at least the end of June. I'd really like to get to some more carers' centres, to more places on the west coast, and to talk to more people. It's been a real privilage to meet so many wonderful people this past week. I'll never forget the man I met in Aberdeen. He was in his mid-80s and he was looking after his wife, who was about 82. He'd been caring for her for 10 years and she's much further on than my mum. But he coped so well and he was so patient. I take my hat off to that man - he's an inspiration, as are so many like him.
Tomorrow I'm back in the dear green place. It's the 21st birthday of Alzheimer Scotland's Glasgow services and I'm going along to their family fun day at Glasgow Green. Hope the weather stays nice and I hope lots of people come along.
All the best,
Tommy
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