Monday, 6 June 2016
Friday, 3 June 2016
Thursday, 2 June 2016
Love story or tragedy we all have our part to play.
My mum’s life was built on a love story, her love for family, friends she cared for but most of all mums love for my dad and his love for her. Growing up like many family’s we had our moments but my mums love always conquered. We were always put first at all times and mums ability to care for everyone was inspiring, she was magnificent in my eyes and I miss her dearly. I was thinking about recovery yesterday, I don’t think I will ever recover from missing my mum and a big part of that, the biggest part was all that dementia brought.
My mum met my dad and they fell in love, so there began a love story and no matter what challenges came our way we always had love to get us through. There is a pain in my heart that just won’t go away and I don’t think it ever will, it was just too hard and I felt too helpless far too often. Dementia on its own can break your heart and when dad passed away 10 years ago I thought mum would die from a broken heart, I truly did but what is cruller to die from a broken heart or not remember the person your heart was broken for. Mum had family and friends to care for and worry about, she worried and cared for everyone and everything so much so that she put aside and hidden her broken heart. I can’t hide my broken heart, there was too much struggle so many days feeling helpless, too little understanding from within and towards us and in my opinion across society about dementia.
My mum like all mums and dads deserve the right to keep their life stories closer to love stories and away from tragedies. Society has its own part to play until we take dementia and the understanding of dementia to the wider society then veering towards tragedy will always be there until the people we encounter understand the impact this illness has and their actions have on our lives. The final chapter of our lives and love stories will always be affected, if only people could understand.
My heart smiles when I think of the people who helped keep mums love story alive against all odds during her journey with dementia, even though this was only few, they will always have a place in my heart for helping a son and his mum get though the best they could. The down side is we encountered too many who held us back, who never engaged with mum, who only saw a wee woman with dementia and almost wrote mum off. My mum was never just a wee woman with dementia, she was Joan Whitelaw magnificent, kind, caring and right to the end her eyes shone with love she cared more about us than many cared about her.
Love story or tragedy what part will you play in the life of others?
With great thanks to Wendy Johnston Project Officer-Promoting Excellence Scottish Social Services Council for the kind Invite to take part meet with and speak at the Dementia Ambassadors at Abbotsford Care in Kirkcaldy
I am so very hounred to be invited along and help celebrate the work Dementia Ambassadors do and a day of welcoming New ambassadors
A big thank you to Wendy and all at Scottish Social Services Council for the kind invite
Wednesday, 1 June 2016
With great thanks to Irene Foster Oral Health Improvement Programme OfficerNHS Health Scotland, Iain Corran BDS LL.B MA PgCert, and all at the National Oral Health Promotion Group.
For the kind invite to speak at the NOHPG study day Leeds Saturday June 11th
I am very hounred to be invited and look forward TO attending and meeting everyone
With great thanks to Georgie Callaghan South West Skills Development Manager, hfma West Midlands for the kind invite to speak at the HFMA West Midlands Branch Annual Conference Wolverhampton Racecourse
I have had the great honour to speak at previous HFMA branches conferences and look forward to attending,meeting everyone and speaking at the West Midlands annual conference
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