Tuesday 25 March 2014

Mothers Day - my mum how I miss you so

                                                              Daughter 

                                                   



                                                                 Sister 

                              



         

                                                             love - story

                                        



                                                            Love story 

                                              




                                                                         Mother -

            




                                                                     Friend 

                                            





                              



I just miss my mum so much .I have been pottering around the house all morning as I do most weekends and evenings and ther is a feeling of great emptiness in this house and in my heart 


I don't miss dementia - dementia does not define my mum.My mum was magnificent kind and caring but there is no escape from all dementia brought to mums life and mine as a son to witness 


I miss both mum and Dad  ,over twenty years ago I started a life touring the world and making great times and great mistakes and even from a distance shared the great times with my parents.I am absolutely greatful for the support,advice and help they gave to the msitakes and struggles I personally faced along the way. I was a lucky boy to have such parents 


Never imagining that 20 years later my mum would be diagnosed with dementia and I would become  a carer.Now there is a description that's sits slightly uneasy .people keep saying " you cared for your mum " that is only half the story .even with all mum faced she always cared for her son.on the days we where both struggling on the days I was falli apart .on my knees and broken,this wonderful mum could make it all better with a squeeze of my hand or the love from her eyes 


That's what mums and dads do no matter what they face they make it better for their children ,no mater how young or old their children are ,no matter how far or close they May be 


And I miss that so much.I miss the support ,kindness that squeeze of the hand the love and care in mums eyes 


You took much away dementia but never the love and care a mother had for her children and for all


My mum I just miss you so 


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