Monday, 18 February 2013

How I wish you where here mum............

How I wish you where here mum

As a young lad, one day I grew up and left home a home with great parents, memories and support, to go out and explore the world .When that day comes the kindness and support from your parents is the building block to all that lays ahead .and I travelled pretty much 10 months of the year with my work  ,but always kept in touch hardly a day went by without  a call even the briefest of call to make sure all was ok at home and sometime maybe more than I care to remember for support and to take away the loneliness travelling can bring. and I was lucky  I had good relationships that mainly my job added to possibly me got in the way off .both my parents where hard working kind ,honest and decent ,who gave all to their children .And then one day you come home to visit mum ,who by this time was on her own as dad had passed away a few years before and everything had changed ,my hard working wee mum was in the beginnings of dementia ,confused distant and scared and for the first time this amazing lady who was always ready to put her arm and support around others and take the pain in their place needed an arm around her and I  tried the best I could ,but it was to hard to often ,but as I sit here tonight looking back at a 5 year journey and the bigger story of life there are two things that stand out ,even at the lowest points even when the full force of dementia was taking its toll even against all odds my mum was still caring for me .On paper I was her carer and mum needed much care towards then end ,but she was always caring for me and over the last years it was just mum and me struggling to get through each day ,and mum was my best pal and support
But the other thing that really stands as I sit here alone at home tonight is How I wish you where here mum, How I wish you where here


  1. Such a poignant post and so beautifully expressed x

  2. Going by all the good you are doing she is not very far away .


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